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So how did the quiz go for you? I got “active” which is similar to an authoritative parent, which luckily, is the best style of parenting! As you read further, you will learn why.
This week we read in Lauer chapter
12: Becoming a Parent. In this chapter, I learned about various implications of
becoming a parent. Since the 1970s, the birthrate in the U.S. has declined.
Starting in 1995 there have been about 14-15 births per 1,000 people due to
immigration and declining death rate. Even the number of children people are
having is now an average of 2.5. The reasons why people may not be having
children is because either they choose not to or they are not able to. Reasons
why people choose not to have children may be personal fulfillment, career,
economic costs, relationship focus, and doubts about parenting skills. Involuntary
childlessness may be due to infertility. Although some people find it
impossible to have children on their own, they resort to various methods in
order to do so. These include artificial insemination, in vitro fertilization,
surrogate mothers, and adoption. However these solutions may otherwise result
in a number of complications. Children suffer adverse effects from artificial
insemination that include higher levels of confusion, emotional pain, feelings
of isolation, depression, delinquency, and substance abuse. They may even worry
about finding a mate as a half sibling. Controversies of in vitro fertilization
may be defined as abortion because of the disposal of extra fertilized eggs. Surrogate
mothers may experience rejection if the baby is deformed. Lastly, adopted
children experience more conflict with their parents.
The
reasons that people have children are many. Some people have children because
of the happiness they have experienced growing up in a family. It may also be
for personal fulfillment, family legacy, status, religious beliefs, or social
expectations. People deem raising children as an indispensable part of growth
despite career success. Parents have reported that they experience love like
they had never before experienced in their entire lives. Having children
inevitably brings additional stress to deal with, but it does not necessarily
prove to decrease the quality of life in the long run. The relationships that
parents build with their children and the strengthening of their own marriage
can be more fulfilling and strengthen all assets for their reasons of having
children in the first place. However, these implications are predicated upon
effective parenting practices.
Those educated, married longer, and
who have higher income have improved marital satisfaction with children. Also,
marital and parental satisfaction are likely to be higher when the father is
more involved with the baby. Last but not least, parenting style not only
influence the quality of the relationship, but in the overall development of
the child. Fathers who are substantially engaged in the care of infants and
children turn out to be more intellectually competent, empathetic, display
higher levels of self-control, self-esteem, greater degree of social
competence, and higher levels of psychological well-being. There are three
different parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive. The authoritarian parent maximizes unquestioning
control over the child, and may exert severe punishment. These children result
in lower self-esteem, school achievement, behavioral problems, less well
adjusted, and distrustful. The permissive
parent minimizes control to the degree that any behavior is acceptable.
Children make their own decisions and develop independence with few or no
parental constrains and guidance. However, their children end up lacking
self-control and do not easily adapt to situations of authority figures. The authoritative parent is balanced
between setting limits and granting autonomy to the degree that they are developmentally
capable of handling responsibility and accepting the consequences on their own.
These parents encourage independence and are able to express their opinions.
Although they are persistent in expecting what behavior is deemed as
appropriate, they are able to express their opinions and share a warm
relationship characterized with affection. Children of authoritative parents
have higher quality family life. They achieve better in academics,
self-reliance, better moral reasoning, and life satisfaction. They are less
likely to experience anxiety, depression, and get involved in delinquent
behavior.